Kinky is as Kinky Does

Hey, you’re kinky.” Some people say it with surprise while others say it without really knowing what it means.

The term kinky essentially means that you’re interested in sexual components that are “beyond the standards of normal.”

What is normal when it comes to sexuality?

It depends on who you ask, really. According to History Today, sexuality has developed considerably over the years. It was once identified that missionary sex (girl on bottom, man on top) was the only “appropriate” form of sexual relations.

The good news is that we have progressed considerably since the Victorian era. We know how to express ourselves sexually. We are more open about being gay. We ask for what we want and aren’t afraid to have an orgasm. However, there are still kinks that some people choose to focus on.

What are kinks?

If you have kinks, otherwise known as fetishes, you’re said to be kinky. If you engage in any unconventional sexual practices, then you’re kinky. If you want to have kinky sex with someone, then you need to find someone who is open-minded enough to try them out with you.

A website, fetlife.com, is a social network dedicated to the kinky community. It actually allows you to talk about and even discover kinks without feeling as though you’re being judged by anyone else.

If you were to say that you enjoy being tied up or gagged during sex in a crowd of “normal” people, you would likely face all sorts of judging gasps. That can make it difficult to live the life you want to lead. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being kinky. Some people would even say that it’s quite fun.

What does kinky look like in the bedroom?

There are all sorts of ways to be kinky with a partner in the bedroom (or kitchen or anywhere else). You may want to do it in the dark, while wearing leather, or even by inviting multiple partners to join in.

There may also be the presence of props, which, by very definition is kinky. You may find all sorts of props in a kinky person’s room:

  • Handcuffs
  • Whips
  • Blindfolds
  • Wartenberg wheel
  • Rope

Most people are kinky in one way or another, even if they don’t talk about it. Many people will also grow into their kinks as they get older because of their desire to try something new or spice things up with their partner.